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Guest Writer Daniella Acardi Shares Why She’s Still a Virgin

by Maryann Pisano on March 31, 2015

I’m in my 20’s, and I’m still a virgin.  Yes, yes, yes, I know what you’re thinking.  I’m probably some  librarian type who’s weird and who doesn’t have any friends.  Or, I’m probably overly religious, or a prude.  Or, I’m secretly gay.  To be honest, I am not any of those things.  I’m outgoing, beautiful, fun, and successful.  And, I chose to remain a virgin.

For one, I’m a hopeless romantic.  I’ve seen Titanic over 100 times.  I love fairytales, love stories, and a prince charming coming to save the woman of his dreams.  In high school, none of the boys ever seemed to come close to Romeo in Romeo and Juliet or Noah from The Notebook.  They all seemed to be just regular, boring, boys.  I heard stories of my friends swiping their V-cards in their boyfriend’s basements, at parties, or in their dorm rooms.  None of these locations sounded romantic to me.  I wanted my first time to be insanely special with someone who I truly loved.  It wasn’t just going to be with a man who was just okay, or a just a regular current boyfriend.  I was looking for Jack Dawson mixed with Tobias Eaton, mixed with Jay Gatsby.  I know, this kind of guy doesn’t exist, but if I could dream it, it could happen.

In this day and age, there are so many forms of contraceptions.  But many of my friends went on to have unwanted pregnancies.  I have so many goals I want to fulfill before having kids.  One day children will be a beautiful blessing to me. But right now, I’m just not ready and I don’t want to take that risk.  

Several of my girlfriends have regretted many men that they’ve been with.  Some of these guys turned out to be huge assholes, backstabbers, or have used them for sex.  They’ve come crying to me, wishing they could take back their actions by giving these men their bodies.  By withholding sex, there is no regret.

One day, I’m going to meet the love of my life.  And when that day comes, sex will be beyond beautiful.  It will be for love and to connect on a emotional level.  Until then, I’m content waiting.  We shouldn’t let our society dictate who we’re intimate with.  We should do what we’re comfortable doing.

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