Ever since we are young, we have been programmed that there are several steps you need to follow when you grow up. You need to graduate from college, find a good job, buy a house, get married, and have babies. Who exactly decided that this is what we all needed to do? And why do so many of us comply to this?
I am a 35 year old woman who does not want to get married. I don’t think getting married is very important. If I find a wonderful man to spend my life with, great. But, why do I need to be married to prove that I love him? And why do I need to stay with one person for the rest of my life to feel complete?
In high school, all of my girlfriends were boy crazy. They went from serious relationship to serious relationship. I had small relationships in high school, but I never took any of them seriously. I had so many dreams I wanted to fulfill, why would I sit around worrying about what some stupid guy thought of me?
After college, my friends slowly began to get engaged and get married. I, on the other hand, was traveling, working on my career, and living the life I had always dreamed of. My friends would call me and complain about their spouse, or how their baby was driving them crazy. They had quiet, quaint lives in the suburbs, and I was living vivaciously in the city.
After several years of this, the questions began rolling in. Why are you single? Have you met any guys that you like? Do you want me to fix you up? And the best one is: Do you think you might be gay?
No, I’m not gay, and no I definitely don’t want to do match.com. I JUST LIKE BEING SINGLE! I like having all of my time to myself. I like being my own boss and deciding where and when I want to do things. I like that I don’t have to change dirty diapers and deal with the pressures of marriage. I like being single, and I like being unmarried.